Here’s my list of 10 things I think new moms should know, just in case you don’t already.
- Take the first 2 weeks and lay in bed with baby. Have other people in place to do everything else that needs done. Freeze some meals ahead of time so you don’t have to worry about food (and have full instructions on each meal so you don’t have to look that up and anyone will be able to just follow the instructions.)
- It’s okay if baby sleeps in bed with you. It’s okay if baby sleeps in a crib. The key is that mama and baby are both getting some sleep. I found it a lot easier for me to get sleep and for baby to sleep happily (read: not wake up crying in the night) if we shared a bed and it was a lot easier to nurse her as well. But your baby may be different. I promise you though, baby will make his/her preference VERY clear from the beginning. Just be sure your following safe sleep practices for wherever baby sleeps and you’re good to go! (The Arm’s Reach Co-Sleeper is a wonderful compromise between crib sleeping and bed sharing. My baby did not like it, but yours may love it. It allows you to have separate sleep areas but still be close for nursing so mom doesn’t need to get out of bed!)
- Recovery is hard for some moms (myself included!) even if you had an intervention-free birth. Give yourself time to heal…lots of time. Your body will tell you to slow down by increasing the flow of lochia so just listen to your body, and don’t feel pressure to jump back into the flow of life too soon.
- Breastfeeding is hard for some moms (once again, myself included.) You can do it, but it can feel pretty hopeless at the beginning. Line up support before the birth if you still have time. Have a lactation consultant’s number handy and call some up ahead of time to see if they will make home visits. Some doulas will offer postpartum breastfeeding support, too so be sure to ask that when you are interviewing doulas.
- It’s important for YOU to take care of the baby. I know your friends and family are dying to get a hold of that baby, but it’s okay to limit that time. It’s best even to limit that time. If family are coming to stay with you, make this clear up front that they are there to help YOU and that means cooking, cleaning, helping with an older sibling, etc. and allowing YOU to care for the baby. Of course they can get some baby snuggles in now and then, but they should not spend the whole visit sitting and holding the baby. When I had family come stay for a week, I ended up actually getting less rest, having more stress and overdoing it. I also only held the baby when she needed to nurse. This time I’ve prepared lists to help show what needs to be done around the house so it will be easy for family to chip in and allow me to be the one to care for baby.
- You can’t hold your baby too much. It’s not possible. Ignore anyone that suggests otherwise.
- Your doctor isn’t God. It’s okay to question your doctor. If he/she can’t handle that, time to look for a new one. Really. I’m amazed at the misinformation and outright inaccuracies doctors will tell their patients. (Luckily not mine. He’s awesome.) Locally I’ve heard some crazy things from friends and acquaintances that doctors have stated as fact. (As recent as this week, a local doctor told a mom her breastmilk loses all nutritional value at one year old, WHAT?!?)
- Listen to your gut, your heart, your intuition, whatever you want to call it. It’s right 99.9%. And listen to your baby, too. Combine the two and you have a recipe for success!
- If you have a good sling or carrier, you can do a whole lot of things pretty easily with your baby (and not get stuck carrying around those insanely heavy car seat bucket things or navigating a bulky stroller). You can even nurse in one and no one will even know.
- Your baby is the best thing in the whole entire world and don’t let anyone convince you any differently.
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